Empowerment over/via Adversity, Intimidation, and Bullying
(A life navigation concern of mentoring/life coaching.)
(This approach may not be what is initially desired;
but it is a method by which closure can be obtained.)
(free video 1.5 hour presentaton click here)
Conflict and Crisis will never cease to exist.
Learning to live with the mountains is the key
to empowerment over adversity.
Adversities are an unpleasant learning experience.
Re-framing the negative into a positive is a part of successful cognitive modification.
"You will never reach your destination
if you stop to throw stones at every barking dog."
(Winston Churchhill)
"There is a method where adversity becomes
empowering in a positive manner.
Initially it appears as though you are sacrificing yourself;
but in the end it is all about you."
It is not by chance that gifted performance, wellness, and love expression
all use the same bio-dynamic energy pathways. There is hope and the retention of
identity and self-esteem in this holistic approach.
***The reality is that effective help from authority figures and others is most likely not going to happen.***
The situation may not change; and other "issues" will occur as a part of life. Being "alone" will be typical.
Therefore a holistic, empowering approach that is self-generated, and self-resolved is a good idea.
(Forget about: Revenge, paybacks, "dissed/street cred/rep," etc. It's a waste of time with bad results.)
The best thing to learn how to say is: "Oh well. And then move on."
Note: This is a complete presentation discussing the issue, the re-framing of the situation into a positive mindset, and achieving a sense of closure and empowerment. It is 1.5 hours long; of deadly serious information.
*The Cyclical Historical Information that is "NEW INFORMATION" Today*
First, a story:
There was this person walking through the woods who fell into a deep pit not too far off of the beaten path.
Desperate attempts to climb up the vertical walls didn't help.
After three days of fruitless yelling and screaming, no one came to his assistance.
He was doomed. And frantic. And thinking he would die there.
Suddenly a voice called out. "Hey, anyone down there in this pit!"
Well the man in the pit screamed back. "Help me! Don't go away! I'm stuck in this pit. It's impossible to get out!"
Immediately there was a big crash as the man from above leaped into the deep pit, crash landed, and nearly knocked over the guy who was
trapped in the pit! Now they were both "trapped" in the pit.
"What are you crazy or something! Now we are both trapped in this pit! What are you, stupid or something!!??
The other man dusted himself off and said,
"Don't worry. I've been down here before."
There needs to be pre-planned responses to as many situations as possible. This allows for one's ethical, moral, social consequences, responsibilities, and legal ramifications to pre-determine a response. There is not time to take a minute to think when split seconds count. A philosopher, military tactician Sun Tsu cited: ""If you know yourself you will win most of the time. If you know your enemy you will win most of the time. If you know yourself and your enemy you will never be defeated."
Also, life is not about always winning; it is not about never losing. However, it is about never being defeated in your thoughts and mind. There are times when you lose. There are times when you retreat. There are also times when you have to do whatever it takes to survive. A loss is to be expected. It is not to be self defeating. It is about getting back up when knocked down. Dusting yourself off, and saying "No big deal, I've been here before." An attitude that empowers when in adversity, intimidation, or bullying is never defeated.
A "good times" or "always win" mentality can fall apart in a hurry. It also indicates interacting/functioning in areas of endeavors of no real competition. At the "top" there is always "give and take."
The goal is:
* To empower yourself in the losses.
* To empower yourself in the retreats.
* To empower yourself when you have to do whatever it takes to survive.
* Confidence, No Fear.
* Pre-plan responses so that as many considerations/consequences as possible can be considered.
* Resolve the conflict within oneself.
For this positive empowerment attitude, historical strategies and beliefs that stood the test of "time and trial" have proved themselves as good starting points. When I used to teach these strategies I would say that it is the historical techniques that worked for those being persecuted, martyred, going to the lion's den, or Colosseum death games that would be good to know: but of course we would never be in those situations. Times have changed. This is a serious video for a deadly serious topic.
The ability to turn all situations into a positive outcome, or at least be able to visualize a positive outcome is part of survival, and also success.
The format of this video is a "fireside chat." Watching me for an hour or so would not be a conducive to a serious listening experience. Oh well. The captions are for highlights.
Also, a breathing technique which uses visualization to change the perception of an "event," and allow closure, is a supplemental video clip. We can use the meta-physical to change the physical (Love is real.) There is a sense of closure to all of the above techniques when certain perspectives are taken.
PREVENTION: Although "prevention" is not directly a part of this "dealing with it" video, the focus of the entire website is toward prevention.
It is not by chance that gifted performance, wellness, and love expression
all use the same bio-dynamic energy pathways.
The rules have changed. The solution has not.
We need to build up people from the inside; if we don't like what we see on the outside.
There is a worldwide cultural problem in the swing toward the rising use of controlling intimidation/bullying/violence/anger.
Some is "hidden," but much is openly blatant to send a message of power/control. Some of it is just the "nature of the beast."
Some of it won't be going away.
However, most is taught consciously or subconsciously. There is power in intimidation and domination over others. Group participation multiplies the power. And it gets results. This power fills the need for a sense of power within one's being. When power replaces self-actualization and love as a culture, the insatiable violence dominates. If no other option for fulfilling one's need for "self power" is available or working, then the violent route can easily become a substitute path to follow. For some, everything else will be given up for just the feeling of power, even if fleeting. For others, just to belong/identify is sufficient. It is like living Halloween. This can become a consuming need, a black hole that needs to be filled.
The entire website focuses on "personal experiential" power/self -actualization. Often the intimidation/terroristic behavior is due to an attempt to fulfill something missing in one's life. This "hole" could be a lack of experiencing oneself/self image, payback for mistreatment, anger, identity with a power, need for recognition by somebody/something, attention getting, or even fear.
Two holistic used in this website deal with these issues. One of the holistic concepts used in this website is "Power/Control/Beauty." However this "Power" is not domination/other person directed; but the empowerment that comes from a sense of self-identity and personal power created from within. Performance feedback is usually required for successful confirmation of one's empowerment power. This is why the fundamentals are so important. We use the fundamentals in everyday activities. There are constant feedback opportunities. It is real because it works, can be experienced/felt.
The other holistic concept is Gifted Performance/Oneness/Love. Where there is love there isn't fear. There are many types of love, most of which remove "black holes of fears" from a life.
Even walking, picking something up, climbing stairs, are opportunities for the fundamentals of giftedness. The "personal experience" confirms a positive existence which can be felt. The creative process also fills the "voids" of life. Artistic expression can be in every aspect of life. (The movie"The Girl with the Pearl Earring" about Vermeer the painter opens with the "girl" artistically arranging slices of fruit on a plate before setting them on a table.) We have to be aware of what we are doing, or can do. Education plays a role here. Thus this website; notice the use of daily activities, and daily environment.
By definition, a powerless self image can't self-actualize. And obviously can't do gifted performance. Yet everyday we can perform with those fundamentals and receive the benefits of empowerment/power. We are powerful/empowered by nature. We need this for a healthy lifestyle. We have to be aware of what we are actually doing, or can be doing, self-empowerment wise everyday.
Hobbies and other outside activities are vital sources of feedback of the dynamics of gifted performance. Walking with the gifted bio-dynamics fulfills all the requirements of self-empowerment, oneness, and sense of beauty. So will a few stretches. Those few inhale breath stretches before going to sleep every night fulfill this role as well. Everything counts.
Our everyday life is a continual state of gifted performance. Part of the magic.
The needs are so basic; and so is the fulfillment.
HOW: This website focuses on the "How."
It is not by chance that gifted performance, wellness, and love expression all use the same bio-dynamic energy pathways.
Collectively, voids that everyone has within themselves are filled by these three holistically intertwined attributes.
Unique is that as new voids are created as old void are filled; then a natural re-filling process occurs in a continual evolution of "lifting up."
The "lifting up evolution process" is not a "survival of the fittest evolution process."
(Which is the reason for the adversity/intimidation/bullying resolution presented in this website and video.)
Everyone can function in "giftedness" in some way or another.
Athletics, music, arts, hobbbies, art appreciation, sports fans, aficionados, fashion, literally anything can be appreciated in a gifted manner. Singing in the shower!
Pre-school on up can teach this as part of activities. So can arts and physical education and health classes.
After school classes can be offered in any activity. Public buildings such as libraries and recreation centers could add classes, perhaps on a rotation basis. Adult evening classes and the YMCA and church buildings.
In every activity there is someone doing it using the bio-dynamics of giftedness. Most people never study the bio-dynamics of what they are doing. So, for these gifted people to be able to share their giftedness; all they need to know is the principles involved. Ready made teachers, life coaches, and mentors! Most of whom would appreciate the opportunity to share. (Another realm of giftedness being brought into play!)
This is a free video because it is so vital to everyone. (Free video 1.5 hour presentation click here)
Oneness in the Chaos
Why Plan A,B,C.
Giftedness-Oneness
Oneness/Lonliness/Faith
The Error in Giving 110%
Developing Oneness via Driving (video)
Oneness Demo via Archery Draw (video)
Create oneness with piano (video)
Create oneness with guitar (video)
Learning to live with the mountains is the key
to empowerment over adversity.
Adversities are an unpleasant learning experience.
Re-framing the negative into a positive is a part of successful cognitive modification.
"You will never reach your destination
if you stop to throw stones at every barking dog."
(Winston Churchhill)
"There is a method where adversity becomes
empowering in a positive manner.
Initially it appears as though you are sacrificing yourself;
but in the end it is all about you."
It is not by chance that gifted performance, wellness, and love expression
all use the same bio-dynamic energy pathways. There is hope and the retention of
identity and self-esteem in this holistic approach.
***The reality is that effective help from authority figures and others is most likely not going to happen.***
The situation may not change; and other "issues" will occur as a part of life. Being "alone" will be typical.
Therefore a holistic, empowering approach that is self-generated, and self-resolved is a good idea.
(Forget about: Revenge, paybacks, "dissed/street cred/rep," etc. It's a waste of time with bad results.)
The best thing to learn how to say is: "Oh well. And then move on."
Note: This is a complete presentation discussing the issue, the re-framing of the situation into a positive mindset, and achieving a sense of closure and empowerment. It is 1.5 hours long; of deadly serious information.
*The Cyclical Historical Information that is "NEW INFORMATION" Today*
First, a story:
There was this person walking through the woods who fell into a deep pit not too far off of the beaten path.
Desperate attempts to climb up the vertical walls didn't help.
After three days of fruitless yelling and screaming, no one came to his assistance.
He was doomed. And frantic. And thinking he would die there.
Suddenly a voice called out. "Hey, anyone down there in this pit!"
Well the man in the pit screamed back. "Help me! Don't go away! I'm stuck in this pit. It's impossible to get out!"
Immediately there was a big crash as the man from above leaped into the deep pit, crash landed, and nearly knocked over the guy who was
trapped in the pit! Now they were both "trapped" in the pit.
"What are you crazy or something! Now we are both trapped in this pit! What are you, stupid or something!!??
The other man dusted himself off and said,
"Don't worry. I've been down here before."
There needs to be pre-planned responses to as many situations as possible. This allows for one's ethical, moral, social consequences, responsibilities, and legal ramifications to pre-determine a response. There is not time to take a minute to think when split seconds count. A philosopher, military tactician Sun Tsu cited: ""If you know yourself you will win most of the time. If you know your enemy you will win most of the time. If you know yourself and your enemy you will never be defeated."
Also, life is not about always winning; it is not about never losing. However, it is about never being defeated in your thoughts and mind. There are times when you lose. There are times when you retreat. There are also times when you have to do whatever it takes to survive. A loss is to be expected. It is not to be self defeating. It is about getting back up when knocked down. Dusting yourself off, and saying "No big deal, I've been here before." An attitude that empowers when in adversity, intimidation, or bullying is never defeated.
A "good times" or "always win" mentality can fall apart in a hurry. It also indicates interacting/functioning in areas of endeavors of no real competition. At the "top" there is always "give and take."
The goal is:
* To empower yourself in the losses.
* To empower yourself in the retreats.
* To empower yourself when you have to do whatever it takes to survive.
* Confidence, No Fear.
* Pre-plan responses so that as many considerations/consequences as possible can be considered.
* Resolve the conflict within oneself.
For this positive empowerment attitude, historical strategies and beliefs that stood the test of "time and trial" have proved themselves as good starting points. When I used to teach these strategies I would say that it is the historical techniques that worked for those being persecuted, martyred, going to the lion's den, or Colosseum death games that would be good to know: but of course we would never be in those situations. Times have changed. This is a serious video for a deadly serious topic.
The ability to turn all situations into a positive outcome, or at least be able to visualize a positive outcome is part of survival, and also success.
The format of this video is a "fireside chat." Watching me for an hour or so would not be a conducive to a serious listening experience. Oh well. The captions are for highlights.
Also, a breathing technique which uses visualization to change the perception of an "event," and allow closure, is a supplemental video clip. We can use the meta-physical to change the physical (Love is real.) There is a sense of closure to all of the above techniques when certain perspectives are taken.
PREVENTION: Although "prevention" is not directly a part of this "dealing with it" video, the focus of the entire website is toward prevention.
It is not by chance that gifted performance, wellness, and love expression
all use the same bio-dynamic energy pathways.
The rules have changed. The solution has not.
We need to build up people from the inside; if we don't like what we see on the outside.
There is a worldwide cultural problem in the swing toward the rising use of controlling intimidation/bullying/violence/anger.
Some is "hidden," but much is openly blatant to send a message of power/control. Some of it is just the "nature of the beast."
Some of it won't be going away.
However, most is taught consciously or subconsciously. There is power in intimidation and domination over others. Group participation multiplies the power. And it gets results. This power fills the need for a sense of power within one's being. When power replaces self-actualization and love as a culture, the insatiable violence dominates. If no other option for fulfilling one's need for "self power" is available or working, then the violent route can easily become a substitute path to follow. For some, everything else will be given up for just the feeling of power, even if fleeting. For others, just to belong/identify is sufficient. It is like living Halloween. This can become a consuming need, a black hole that needs to be filled.
The entire website focuses on "personal experiential" power/self -actualization. Often the intimidation/terroristic behavior is due to an attempt to fulfill something missing in one's life. This "hole" could be a lack of experiencing oneself/self image, payback for mistreatment, anger, identity with a power, need for recognition by somebody/something, attention getting, or even fear.
Two holistic used in this website deal with these issues. One of the holistic concepts used in this website is "Power/Control/Beauty." However this "Power" is not domination/other person directed; but the empowerment that comes from a sense of self-identity and personal power created from within. Performance feedback is usually required for successful confirmation of one's empowerment power. This is why the fundamentals are so important. We use the fundamentals in everyday activities. There are constant feedback opportunities. It is real because it works, can be experienced/felt.
The other holistic concept is Gifted Performance/Oneness/Love. Where there is love there isn't fear. There are many types of love, most of which remove "black holes of fears" from a life.
Even walking, picking something up, climbing stairs, are opportunities for the fundamentals of giftedness. The "personal experience" confirms a positive existence which can be felt. The creative process also fills the "voids" of life. Artistic expression can be in every aspect of life. (The movie"The Girl with the Pearl Earring" about Vermeer the painter opens with the "girl" artistically arranging slices of fruit on a plate before setting them on a table.) We have to be aware of what we are doing, or can do. Education plays a role here. Thus this website; notice the use of daily activities, and daily environment.
By definition, a powerless self image can't self-actualize. And obviously can't do gifted performance. Yet everyday we can perform with those fundamentals and receive the benefits of empowerment/power. We are powerful/empowered by nature. We need this for a healthy lifestyle. We have to be aware of what we are actually doing, or can be doing, self-empowerment wise everyday.
Hobbies and other outside activities are vital sources of feedback of the dynamics of gifted performance. Walking with the gifted bio-dynamics fulfills all the requirements of self-empowerment, oneness, and sense of beauty. So will a few stretches. Those few inhale breath stretches before going to sleep every night fulfill this role as well. Everything counts.
Our everyday life is a continual state of gifted performance. Part of the magic.
The needs are so basic; and so is the fulfillment.
HOW: This website focuses on the "How."
It is not by chance that gifted performance, wellness, and love expression all use the same bio-dynamic energy pathways.
Collectively, voids that everyone has within themselves are filled by these three holistically intertwined attributes.
Unique is that as new voids are created as old void are filled; then a natural re-filling process occurs in a continual evolution of "lifting up."
The "lifting up evolution process" is not a "survival of the fittest evolution process."
(Which is the reason for the adversity/intimidation/bullying resolution presented in this website and video.)
Everyone can function in "giftedness" in some way or another.
Athletics, music, arts, hobbbies, art appreciation, sports fans, aficionados, fashion, literally anything can be appreciated in a gifted manner. Singing in the shower!
Pre-school on up can teach this as part of activities. So can arts and physical education and health classes.
After school classes can be offered in any activity. Public buildings such as libraries and recreation centers could add classes, perhaps on a rotation basis. Adult evening classes and the YMCA and church buildings.
In every activity there is someone doing it using the bio-dynamics of giftedness. Most people never study the bio-dynamics of what they are doing. So, for these gifted people to be able to share their giftedness; all they need to know is the principles involved. Ready made teachers, life coaches, and mentors! Most of whom would appreciate the opportunity to share. (Another realm of giftedness being brought into play!)
This is a free video because it is so vital to everyone. (Free video 1.5 hour presentation click here)
Oneness in the Chaos
Why Plan A,B,C.
Giftedness-Oneness
Oneness/Lonliness/Faith
The Error in Giving 110%
Developing Oneness via Driving (video)
Oneness Demo via Archery Draw (video)
Create oneness with piano (video)
Create oneness with guitar (video)